Comments on: About http://somuchmorethanamom.com How many of us lost OURSELVES when we took on the awesome title of MOM? And why did we do that? We are ALL…SO MUCH MORE THAN A MOM! Mon, 15 Mar 2010 19:58:36 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Cyndi http://somuchmorethanamom.com/about/comment-page-1/#comment-5110 Cyndi Fri, 18 Dec 2009 12:39:09 +0000 http://somuchmorethanamom.com/?page_id=1663#comment-5110 Jayne, you're absolutely right about it being tougher to take care of your elderly parents than children. In most cases with kids there are multiple family members and friends who look forward to babysitting once in a while or at least have their own kids who look forward to us babysitting so they can hang out with our kids. I am lucky in that my mother is still relatively good health and completely independent. I don't envy you, although I do get why you don't regret it. The guilt? Maybe your brothers have subtly expressed their annoyance at taking care or them or maybe you just feel like it's your job and feel as if you aren't doing your job and maybe even burdening your brothers when you ask for help? Jayne, you’re absolutely right about it being tougher to take care of your elderly parents than children. In most cases with kids there are multiple family members and friends who look forward to babysitting once in a while or at least have their own kids who look forward to us babysitting so they can hang out with our kids. I am lucky in that my mother is still relatively good health and completely independent. I don’t envy you, although I do get why you don’t regret it. The guilt? Maybe your brothers have subtly expressed their annoyance at taking care or them or maybe you just feel like it’s your job and feel as if you aren’t doing your job and maybe even burdening your brothers when you ask for help?

]]> By: Jayne Bogdajewicz http://somuchmorethanamom.com/about/comment-page-1/#comment-5095 Jayne Bogdajewicz Thu, 17 Dec 2009 16:11:30 +0000 http://somuchmorethanamom.com/?page_id=1663#comment-5095 I too am trapped in the mom role, but not so much to my children any longer (ages 15, 16, 24, 26) but to my parents who now live with me. I am their caregiver, and honestly, it is more work than raising kids. I have always been one to find time for myself, and my husband. It is very important to take good care of yourself and your spouse as it is very easy to get lost in the every day tasks and forget about your needs or your spouses. When my children were young, it was easy to get out since I would have my husband or a grandmother to babysit. I also worked full time until my two youngest were 1 and 2. Having parents that need care takes alot of commitment because you cannot just go out - you have to have someone come take care of them while you are gone, which is not always an easy thing to do. Yes I do have 3 brothers, one of which is great and can usually help out. But why do I feel guilty when asking my bothers to come help their parents? I do not regret having them with me, however, I did not realize the commitment it would take. I figured I rasied 4 kids, no problem. But caring for elderly parents (which are like children), is definately harder then raising children. Thanks for letting me express my thoughts. We sometimes just need to get it out and have someone listen. Being a mom is the most rewarding, yet sometimes frustrating job there is. I too am trapped in the mom role, but not so much to my children any longer (ages 15, 16, 24, 26) but to my parents who now live with me. I am their caregiver, and honestly, it is more work than raising kids. I have always been one to find time for myself, and my husband. It is very important to take good care of yourself and your spouse as it is very easy to get lost in the every day tasks and forget about your needs or your spouses. When my children were young, it was easy to get out since I would have my husband or a grandmother to babysit. I also worked full time until my two youngest were 1 and 2. Having parents that need care takes alot of commitment because you cannot just go out – you have to have someone come take care of them while you are gone, which is not always an easy thing to do. Yes I do have 3 brothers, one of which is great and can usually help out. But why do I feel guilty when asking my bothers to come help their parents? I do not regret having them with me, however, I did not realize the commitment it would take. I figured I rasied 4 kids, no problem. But caring for elderly parents (which are like children), is definately harder then raising children.

Thanks for letting me express my thoughts. We sometimes just need to get it out and have someone listen. Being a mom is the most rewarding, yet sometimes frustrating job there is.

]]> By: Look Who’s Coming to Dinner! « A Moment In Time http://somuchmorethanamom.com/about/comment-page-1/#comment-4862 Look Who’s Coming to Dinner! « A Moment In Time Fri, 20 Nov 2009 19:40:13 +0000 http://somuchmorethanamom.com/?page_id=1663#comment-4862 [...] wasn’t planning to write a post about the holidays because my blogger friend Cyndi wrote this post and this post which pretty much summed up the good, bad, and ugly about holiday [...] [...] wasn’t planning to write a post about the holidays because my blogger friend Cyndi wrote this post and this post which pretty much summed up the good, bad, and ugly about holiday [...]

]]> By: Cyndi http://somuchmorethanamom.com/about/comment-page-1/#comment-4686 Cyndi Wed, 04 Nov 2009 19:33:52 +0000 http://somuchmorethanamom.com/?page_id=1663#comment-4686 Well, I'm so glad I found yours too. Seems we are kindred spirits. Welcome! :) Well, I’m so glad I found yours too. Seems we are kindred spirits. Welcome! :)

]]> By: Anne http://somuchmorethanamom.com/about/comment-page-1/#comment-4683 Anne Wed, 04 Nov 2009 18:40:07 +0000 http://somuchmorethanamom.com/?page_id=1663#comment-4683 I am so glad I found your blog. And I must admit that I am a little bit freaked out by it. I'm not freaked about what you wrote, I am freaked about how closely it resembles my own words. I just started a blog called All of the Above to address this exact thing--we are all so very many things, not just one. We are ALL OF THE ABOVE. I just wrote several posts that echo the words in your "about" section. Love your message. And now I am thinking that my angle isn't as unique as I once thought it was! Would love to have you reading. Email me at anne_karis at hotmail dot com for the password. THANKS! Am now following you on FB and Twitter. I am so glad I found your blog. And I must admit that I am a little bit freaked out by it. I’m not freaked about what you wrote, I am freaked about how closely it resembles my own words. I just started a blog called All of the Above to address this exact thing–we are all so very many things, not just one. We are ALL OF THE ABOVE. I just wrote several posts that echo the words in your “about” section. Love your message. And now I am thinking that my angle isn’t as unique as I once thought it was! Would love to have you reading. Email me at anne_karis at hotmail dot com for the password. THANKS! Am now following you on FB and Twitter.

]]> By: Flying Solo ~ Part I | So Much More Than A Mom http://somuchmorethanamom.com/about/comment-page-1/#comment-3277 Flying Solo ~ Part I | So Much More Than A Mom Sun, 23 Aug 2009 00:41:24 +0000 http://somuchmorethanamom.com/?page_id=1663#comment-3277 [...] About [...] [...] About [...]

]]> By: Cyndi http://somuchmorethanamom.com/about/comment-page-1/#comment-2593 Cyndi Fri, 19 Jun 2009 02:16:23 +0000 http://somuchmorethanamom.com/?page_id=1663#comment-2593 Thank you! Thank you!

]]> By: Huriya http://somuchmorethanamom.com/about/comment-page-1/#comment-2591 Huriya Thu, 18 Jun 2009 20:00:21 +0000 http://somuchmorethanamom.com/?page_id=1663#comment-2591 oh man I can copy and paste the entire description for my "About" page.. You have great insight! oh man I can copy and paste the entire description for my “About” page.. You have great insight!

]]> By: Cyndi http://somuchmorethanamom.com/about/comment-page-1/#comment-37 Cyndi Mon, 25 May 2009 17:01:46 +0000 http://somuchmorethanamom.com/?page_id=1663#comment-37 Thank you for letting me know. I think we all have much more in common than we realize. We have all just become so adept at hiding it all and putting on a happy face and never ever talking about it that we feel alone. Good luck on the not smoking and PLEASE come back and share your tips. I'm still struggling! It really pisses me off, I've given birth TWICE for f---'s sake, I can DO THIS!!! :) Narcissists.....ugh. I will probably write much more about this as dealing with these "people" is even more damaging and difficult that smoking. Thank you for letting me know. I think we all have much more in common than we realize. We have all just become so adept at hiding it all and putting on a happy face and never ever talking about it that we feel alone.

Good luck on the not smoking and PLEASE come back and share your tips. I’m still struggling! It really pisses me off, I’ve given birth TWICE for f—’s sake, I can DO THIS!!! :)

Narcissists…..ugh. I will probably write much more about this as dealing with these “people” is even more damaging and difficult that smoking.

]]> By: birdenbire http://somuchmorethanamom.com/about/comment-page-1/#comment-36 birdenbire Mon, 25 May 2009 16:12:29 +0000 http://somuchmorethanamom.com/?page_id=1663#comment-36 Hey Cyndi, Wow do we have a lot in common... just about everything except I'm not a mom. Thanks for writing about the narcissists. Recently removed myself from such a relationship and it nearly killed me. Good luck on quitting smoking... I'm next. Take care of yourself, and thanks, again. I don't feel quite so alone now. Amanda Hey Cyndi,
Wow do we have a lot in common… just about everything except I’m not a mom. Thanks for writing about the narcissists. Recently removed myself from such a relationship and it nearly killed me. Good luck on quitting smoking… I’m next.

Take care of yourself, and thanks, again. I don’t feel quite so alone now.
Amanda

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