About
“You boys can keep your virgins. Give me hot old women in high heels with asses that forgot to get old. “ – Charles Bukowski
My very creative friend Jaime over at It’s A Jaime Thing suggested that I start a blog in November of 2008. What would I talk about? Who would read? The list goes on. It finally came to me….write about being a mom!
Sound boring? Well, I don’t exactly want to write about my daily routine of getting my two school-age sons up, ready for school, get them to school, pick them up, get them to football practice, dinner, homework, etc….YAWN!
What I want to write about is all the other stuff. Before we were moms we were daughters, friends, lovers, students, employees, bosses, wives, etc. We had many roles that defined us. Some of those roles were chosen and enjoyable. Some of them were handed to us by nature and either enjoyable or not. We had interests and hobbies that did not revolve around the next soccer game or who the next PTA treasurer was going to be. How many of us gave all of that up when we became moms? How many of us lost OURSELVES when we took on the awesome title of MOM? And why did we do that?
Don’t get me wrong, I love being a mom. When my oldest son was born, I actually had the thought, “so THIS is what I was meant to do…”. I adore my sons and would do anything for them. They are amazing people and helping to guide them through this crazy life has been, and will always be, a role I treasure and wouldn’t change for anything in the world. I love them both with all my heart. My family is my number one priority in life.
Having said that, aren’t I part of my family? Don’t I deserve at least some of my time and attention? Won’t taking care of myself ultimately make me a better mom anyway? As I discovered a couple of years ago, I had completely lost myself and this blog is primarily my ramblings on how I’m finding myself again. The good, the bad and the ugly. Nothing is off-limits.
You may be wondering about the quote I chose to top this first blog entry. What does that have to do with being a mom?? NOTHING! It’s one of my favorite quotes for many reasons. One of them is that I am DEFINITLEY not a virgin so I appreciate this author’s appreciation for old broads (I’m 38) with nice asses (I’m not ashamed to say I’m still proud of mine ~ I worked hard for it, damnit!). Another reason is that it gives you an idea of my personality and therefore, what you can expect to hear from me. I am optimistic but have a dark side. I am sarcastic…A LOT. I am intellectual but also have the sense of humor of a 14 year old boy. I must warn you….I curse like a truck driver sometimes too. I’m creative and analytical. I am many things, as are we all. We are ALL…SO MUCH MORE THAN A MOM!
Thanks for stopping by, feel free to leave a comment or e-mail me at cyndi@somuchmorethanamom.com.
You are quickly becoming one of my favorite reads. I couldn’t agree more with you. I find myself trapped in this ‘mom’ role. Not that I am unhappy. I’m not, I love being a mom. However, I also love being a sexy, live for the moment, vixen that comes out to play every now and then. Who says once you are a mom you have to lose yourself in that role completely? I don’t buy that shit and I certainly love to have fun. Thanks for the reads. You are talented and I enjoy reading your blog.
Eydie
I think I’m hooked! Great blog!
Thanks!
Awesome blog!
Awesme site! Barney was always much in demand and under pressure to not only produce art work but to give of himself. Everybody wanted part of him. My blogs about Barney Bubbles a graphic entertainer.
i love how you start your posts off with a quote!
I think that your blog is great! Terrific format. If you want to do an exchange let me know. Check out my blog and let me know what you think. http://www.recipeforchaos.wordpress.com I generally will talk about my kids and the adventures of being a single mom. BTW..also a Chicago girl.
Wow! I am so impressed! Your site is great! You are really becoming an expert at blogging! You amaze me with your writing talents and skills! Very Interesting. I love your site!!!!
Nice to know you and see your pic.
Great blog. I clicked over from the contest we are sponsoring at Bad Mommy Blogger. I absolutely adore your site. Quotes from Phillip K Dick and Bukowski — whats not to love. Anyway I think your blog is whip smart and a blast to read. If you ever considering hosting your own contest — I would love to work with you. Email me any time.
Great Blog! I usually read your comments on Dr. Simon’s blog too and I appreciate all the information you share there too.
Cyndi your blog is looking awesome!!! Love it. Cheers, lady!
I just recently started reading your blogg and I must say is funy,informative and really interesting. I even added it to my favorities!
Good Luck!:)
Cyndi ,
I haven’t had time to read your blog but I will follow your activity!
Thanks for singing up at the many social networks I own and I hope to see you around often. I added you on many other sites and I’ll keep connected.
Thanks,
Brian
You’ve added so much content since the very first time I visited. Did you ever start that book?
Love your blog. Love your writing. Love your witty style.
This is an awesome website!!! I get nothing but warm and connected feelings to my other , “sistas,” in this world. Let us keep supporting each other emotionally, spiritually and cosmically! We need to be the good example for our upcoming generations of women. We need to help each other be the best that we can be because in truth, women are running the world and the families and working the jobs!!!
I work the night shift at a local hospital in a place I call Narcissistville and I got off one morning and went to ride the stationary bike in the community gym. An elderly Austrian man was watching (WWII era) one of the animal documentaries on the gym TV. Immediately and courteously he asked me if I liked animals. (I go there for stress relief – never watch TV). “Oh yes, I said, I’ve dated half the men in narcissistville, and they are all animals.” He laughed so hard and loud, I thought he would wet his pants! Which told me volumes. He must have agreed with what I said and knew it was the truth.
Cyndi,
WOW, I love it, I love it. This has given me such a great insight into who you are and what is important to you. Let me say that with motherhood if you work or stay home, there is all kids of guilt involved. Am I doing the right thing? Do I spend enough time with them? Are they well adjusted….and the list goes on and on. I think we all can get lost along the way, in doing so much for others we neglect ourselves. This blog is amazing, keep it up! Good luck with quitting smoking, you have 2 beautiful boys, you can do anything!
Hey Cyndi,
Wow do we have a lot in common… just about everything except I’m not a mom. Thanks for writing about the narcissists. Recently removed myself from such a relationship and it nearly killed me. Good luck on quitting smoking… I’m next.
Take care of yourself, and thanks, again. I don’t feel quite so alone now.
Amanda
oh man I can copy and paste the entire description for my “About” page.. You have great insight!
Thank you!
I am so glad I found your blog. And I must admit that I am a little bit freaked out by it. I’m not freaked about what you wrote, I am freaked about how closely it resembles my own words. I just started a blog called All of the Above to address this exact thing–we are all so very many things, not just one. We are ALL OF THE ABOVE. I just wrote several posts that echo the words in your “about” section. Love your message. And now I am thinking that my angle isn’t as unique as I once thought it was! Would love to have you reading. Email me at anne_karis at hotmail dot com for the password. THANKS! Am now following you on FB and Twitter.
Well, I’m so glad I found yours too. Seems we are kindred spirits. Welcome!
I too am trapped in the mom role, but not so much to my children any longer (ages 15, 16, 24, 26) but to my parents who now live with me. I am their caregiver, and honestly, it is more work than raising kids. I have always been one to find time for myself, and my husband. It is very important to take good care of yourself and your spouse as it is very easy to get lost in the every day tasks and forget about your needs or your spouses. When my children were young, it was easy to get out since I would have my husband or a grandmother to babysit. I also worked full time until my two youngest were 1 and 2. Having parents that need care takes alot of commitment because you cannot just go out – you have to have someone come take care of them while you are gone, which is not always an easy thing to do. Yes I do have 3 brothers, one of which is great and can usually help out. But why do I feel guilty when asking my bothers to come help their parents? I do not regret having them with me, however, I did not realize the commitment it would take. I figured I rasied 4 kids, no problem. But caring for elderly parents (which are like children), is definately harder then raising children.
Thanks for letting me express my thoughts. We sometimes just need to get it out and have someone listen. Being a mom is the most rewarding, yet sometimes frustrating job there is.
Jayne, you’re absolutely right about it being tougher to take care of your elderly parents than children. In most cases with kids there are multiple family members and friends who look forward to babysitting once in a while or at least have their own kids who look forward to us babysitting so they can hang out with our kids. I am lucky in that my mother is still relatively good health and completely independent. I don’t envy you, although I do get why you don’t regret it. The guilt? Maybe your brothers have subtly expressed their annoyance at taking care or them or maybe you just feel like it’s your job and feel as if you aren’t doing your job and maybe even burdening your brothers when you ask for help?
Thank you!
Thank you! I will.
Just checked out your online store….VERY naughty.
I’ll have to think of a contest and get back to you….could be fun!
Thanks, and right back at ya!
Thanks!
Thank you !
Thank you very much!
If by, “started”, you mean have I actually done an outline or have the slightest idea of where to begin, then the answer is no.
Thank you very much!
Thanks, glad to have you here!
LOL – you hit the nail on the head…they are animals.
Thank you so much Janina, I had no idea you were reading! YOU?? GUILT??? You’re a great mom!!!
Thank you for letting me know. I think we all have much more in common than we realize. We have all just become so adept at hiding it all and putting on a happy face and never ever talking about it that we feel alone.
Good luck on the not smoking and PLEASE come back and share your tips. I’m still struggling! It really pisses me off, I’ve given birth TWICE for f—’s sake, I can DO THIS!!!
Narcissists…..ugh. I will probably write much more about this as dealing with these “people” is even more damaging and difficult that smoking.