Comments on: Panic ATTACKS! http://somuchmorethanamom.com/2010/02/16/panic-attacks/ How many of us lost OURSELVES when we took on the awesome title of MOM? And why did we do that? We are ALL…SO MUCH MORE THAN A MOM! Mon, 06 Sep 2010 17:18:22 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Cyndi http://somuchmorethanamom.com/2010/02/16/panic-attacks/comment-page-1/#comment-5689 Cyndi Thu, 25 Feb 2010 07:20:38 +0000 http://somuchmorethanamom.com/?p=3266#comment-5689 Wow, thank you Elaine. I'm sorry to hear about your medical issues. A soft place to fall.... I like that, and it is fitting. As far as all that I do...I'm the classic firstborn overachiever who generally thinks I'm not doing enough. I've gotten better, much better, about taking care of myself but there are still many days when hubby tells me to just SIT DOWN for a little while. Everything is a process...right? Wow, thank you Elaine. I’m sorry to hear about your medical issues. A soft place to fall…. I like that, and it is fitting. As far as all that I do…I’m the classic firstborn overachiever who generally thinks I’m not doing enough. I’ve gotten better, much better, about taking care of myself but there are still many days when hubby tells me to just SIT DOWN for a little while. Everything is a process…right?

]]> By: Guilty Conscience | So Much More Than A Mom http://somuchmorethanamom.com/2010/02/16/panic-attacks/comment-page-1/#comment-5683 Guilty Conscience | So Much More Than A Mom Thu, 25 Feb 2010 06:22:50 +0000 http://somuchmorethanamom.com/?p=3266#comment-5683 [...] been thinking a lot about all this guilt that I’ve recently noticed. Why do I feel guilty about….everything? Where did this come [...] [...] been thinking a lot about all this guilt that I’ve recently noticed. Why do I feel guilty about….everything? Where did this come [...]

]]> By: Elaine http://somuchmorethanamom.com/2010/02/16/panic-attacks/comment-page-1/#comment-5680 Elaine Wed, 24 Feb 2010 18:59:44 +0000 http://somuchmorethanamom.com/?p=3266#comment-5680 Guilt is an everyday battle for me lately. Some days I feel guilty for just "being" because of my childhood. You are doing so much more than I was able to when my kids were growing. You are an amazing person, Cyndi. You have so much compassion and sensitivity yet you are involved in so much. If I would have worked in addition to raising kids I would have gotten adrenal fatigue much sooner than I did. It's a cumulative thing--I was always pushing myself farther than I had energy for--never resting, never relaxing, never recharging. Being a highly sensitive person (HSP), I had to finally learn that I am sensitive for a reason. I can't do everything everyone else does--and the migraines and overwhelmed days stopped. Just stopping the cycle of abuse in your family is enough. Just making your home a "soft place to fall" for your kids and hubby is a lot! You are already succeeding at doing those things! All the other stuff you are doing is icing on the cake and seems to me you are succeeding at those things too. And you always make time to comment on other people's blogs! :) How do you do it all! You are too hard on yourself--daughter's of NMs always are. Nothing we ever did was good enough. Your presence here on the planet is enough. I am grateful for your compassionate expression of words. That's enough for me. You are special just as you are. Elaine .-= Elaine´s last blog ..<a href="http://hopehealing.wordpress.com/2010/02/20/feb-20-2010-moving-on-from-a-narcissistic-parent-a-former-obedient-childs-fight-for-freedom/" rel="nofollow">Feb. 20, 2010 Moving on from a Narcissistic Parent–A Former Obedient Child’s Fight For Freedom</a> =-. Guilt is an everyday battle for me lately. Some days I feel guilty for just “being” because of my childhood. You are doing so much more than I was able to when my kids were growing. You are an amazing person, Cyndi. You have so much compassion and sensitivity yet you are involved in so much. If I would have worked in addition to raising kids I would have gotten adrenal fatigue much sooner than I did. It’s a cumulative thing–I was always pushing myself farther than I had energy for–never resting, never relaxing, never recharging. Being a highly sensitive person (HSP), I had to finally learn that I am sensitive for a reason. I can’t do everything everyone else does–and the migraines and overwhelmed days stopped. Just stopping the cycle of abuse in your family is enough. Just making your home a “soft place to fall” for your kids and hubby is a lot! You are already succeeding at doing those things! All the other stuff you are doing is icing on the cake and seems to me you are succeeding at those things too. And you always make time to comment on other people’s blogs! :) How do you do it all! You are too hard on yourself–daughter’s of NMs always are. Nothing we ever did was good enough. Your presence here on the planet is enough. I am grateful for your compassionate expression of words. That’s enough for me. You are special just as you are. Elaine
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]]> By: Cyndi http://somuchmorethanamom.com/2010/02/16/panic-attacks/comment-page-1/#comment-5659 Cyndi Mon, 22 Feb 2010 03:54:07 +0000 http://somuchmorethanamom.com/?p=3266#comment-5659 Drugs are good. No, I'm not taking pass/fail. It's true that I see myself much differently than others see me and I'm still baffled by that....especially since I've been blogging about just how f-ed up I really am! :) Drugs are good. No, I’m not taking pass/fail. It’s true that I see myself much differently than others see me and I’m still baffled by that….especially since I’ve been blogging about just how f-ed up I really am! :)

]]> By: Cyndi http://somuchmorethanamom.com/2010/02/16/panic-attacks/comment-page-1/#comment-5658 Cyndi Mon, 22 Feb 2010 03:52:51 +0000 http://somuchmorethanamom.com/?p=3266#comment-5658 Excellent questions...why the hell do we beat ourselves up over every little thing?!! Thanks Jess! Excellent questions…why the hell do we beat ourselves up over every little thing?!! Thanks Jess!

]]> By: Les http://somuchmorethanamom.com/2010/02/16/panic-attacks/comment-page-1/#comment-5555 Les Fri, 19 Feb 2010 15:37:15 +0000 http://somuchmorethanamom.com/?p=3266#comment-5555 What works for me? Drugs. (The legal kind, of course). Hopefully, you're taking stats as a pass/fail class. Just hang in there a little longer and hopefully you'll never have to deal with it again! Perfectionists are always hardest on themselves. I'll bet if you could see yourself through anyone else's eyes, you would be looking at yourself as a super competent overachiever! What works for me? Drugs. (The legal kind, of course).

Hopefully, you’re taking stats as a pass/fail class. Just hang in there a little longer and hopefully you’ll never have to deal with it again!

Perfectionists are always hardest on themselves. I’ll bet if you could see yourself through anyone else’s eyes, you would be looking at yourself as a super competent overachiever!

]]> By: Jess http://somuchmorethanamom.com/2010/02/16/panic-attacks/comment-page-1/#comment-5552 Jess Thu, 18 Feb 2010 21:17:00 +0000 http://somuchmorethanamom.com/?p=3266#comment-5552 Another friend of mine wrote a post about guilt this week. What's up with that?? Why are we, as women, and especially as mothers, even more prone to guilt?? I wish I had all the answers, but sadly...I do not:) Hang in there, chica! .-= Jess´s last blog ..<a href="http://overflowingbookshelf.wordpress.com/2010/02/17/22-wordless-wednesday-i-miss-my-hair/" rel="nofollow">22: Wordless Wednesday- I Miss My Hair…Just Sayin’.</a> =-. Another friend of mine wrote a post about guilt this week. What’s up with that?? Why are we, as women, and especially as mothers, even more prone to guilt?? I wish I had all the answers, but sadly…I do not:) Hang in there, chica!
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]]> By: consuella http://somuchmorethanamom.com/2010/02/16/panic-attacks/comment-page-1/#comment-5550 consuella Thu, 18 Feb 2010 15:32:43 +0000 http://somuchmorethanamom.com/?p=3266#comment-5550 i'll be happy to do my rendition of that song when we meet. .-= consuella´s last blog ..<a href="http://consuellabananahammock.wordpress.com/2010/02/16/entering-well/" rel="nofollow">entering well</a> =-. i’ll be happy to do my rendition of that song when we meet.
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]]> By: Cyndi http://somuchmorethanamom.com/2010/02/16/panic-attacks/comment-page-1/#comment-5549 Cyndi Thu, 18 Feb 2010 04:09:17 +0000 http://somuchmorethanamom.com/?p=3266#comment-5549 If you're logged into wordpress your info should auto-populate. If you’re logged into wordpress your info should auto-populate.

]]> By: Cyndi http://somuchmorethanamom.com/2010/02/16/panic-attacks/comment-page-1/#comment-5548 Cyndi Thu, 18 Feb 2010 04:08:43 +0000 http://somuchmorethanamom.com/?p=3266#comment-5548 Tamryn - yes I have considered it and honestly, tutoring is available to me for free but during hours that I am working. I do have access to a free help-line after hours and have used that. Steph, who commented after you, is my sister and knows me all too well. I secretly want to miraculously pass this horrible class without spending any more time on it than I already do. I realize this is a seriously immature and irresponsible attitude for an allegedly grown woman to have and if I find myself struggling any more than I currently am I will be forced to do exactly what you've suggested. :) Tamryn – yes I have considered it and honestly, tutoring is available to me for free but during hours that I am working. I do have access to a free help-line after hours and have used that. Steph, who commented after you, is my sister and knows me all too well. I secretly want to miraculously pass this horrible class without spending any more time on it than I already do. I realize this is a seriously immature and irresponsible attitude for an allegedly grown woman to have and if I find myself struggling any more than I currently am I will be forced to do exactly what you’ve suggested. :)

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