Comments on: Baby Steps

By: 40 | So Much More Than A Mom

40 | So Much More Than A Mom — Fri, 19 Feb 2010 20:21:57 +0000

[...] the events in between these two pulled me out of denial, made me re-evaluate myself, my marriage, every belief I have ever had and what the hell I had allowed myself to become. The past three years have been spent dealing with [...]

By: Inappropriate Behavior | So Much More Than A Mom

Inappropriate Behavior | So Much More Than A Mom — Sat, 14 Nov 2009 21:48:04 +0000

[...] “girlfriend” back in high school. It’s time to challenge these “absolute truths” and stand up for myself once and for all. If I don’t insist on appropriate behavior I [...]

By: Cyndi

Cyndi — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 17:33:59 +0000

Thanks Karen! Can you tell me how many years exactly….

By: Karen Walker

Karen Walker — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 17:16:17 +0000

HI Cyndi,
All I can say is you are on the right track. I’ve spent years looking back at my childhood, trying to separate the beliefs I absorbed from what I know now to be true. Journalling, talk therapy, tons of self-help, all helped. Just know that you are okay just as you are.
Blessings,
karen
Karen Walker´s last blog ..The Cloud of Unknowing

By: Cyndi

Cyndi — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 15:31:19 +0000

It is scary Les!

By: Les

Les — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 13:42:53 +0000

Scary how much power parents have over their kids’ lives–especially when so many parents are f#%k-ups. I certainly hope I haven’t scarred my kids too much when I lost my cool and yelled at them. At least I always let them know when they were doing a good job and lavished them with praise–that’s such a nicer way of raising children and so much more a reflection of how much we really love them.

By: Cyndi

Cyndi — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 00:25:03 +0000

Aww..thanks Tammy. I’ll admit at first I was taken aback by your comment. Then I thought about how your attitude towards my stupid mistake is truly a healthy one, which was the point of my post…that I see every little mistake as a major event that threatens everything I hold dear in life and that is NOT rational thinking. It’s the result of these old lessons that need to be challenged and unlearned.

By: Tammy

Tammy — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 23:36:01 +0000

Well, I feel a bit like an ass now for making the comment I did in your last post. I get it now.

When I had my son, my shared with me something she had learned in a child development course. She told me that everytime young child is yelled at their self esteem is damaged. I am by no means perfect, as a matter of fact, when agitated I tend to yell. However, I have always remembered this piece of information and have been very aware of how my words & temperment is being received by my son.

I apologize for making light of your previous post! )
Tammy´s last blog ..36 – A Nice Round Number.

By: Cyndi

Cyndi — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 21:33:40 +0000

Thanks Lisa. You’re pretty damn strong yourself! It’s so weird how my mom acts so differently towards my kids than she did towards her own. She’s just like your typical Grandma. She still tries her nonsense with me and my sister but is like a completely different person with our kids. I don’t know, I just can’t see disowning a 64 year old woman 20+ years after the damage has been done. It’s entirely possible that I’ll change my mind about that at some point but I doubt it.

By: Cyndi

Cyndi — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 21:29:42 +0000

Hilarious! I guess I have my parents to thank for my knowledge of psychology too!!

And thank you.