Taking A Stand
2009 October 21
“Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.” – Carl Jung
I am officially and publicly rededicating myself to changing many thoughts and behaviors that I had vowed to change but have slipped back into old patterns from time to time. These are things that I know are right for me. They may not be right for anyone else and that’s ok. In no particular order, mine are….
- I will not allow myself to be manipulated or manipulate others.
- I will use direct communication to ask for what I want or need from others.
- I will judge others. I will judge myself too. Much lip-service is being paid these days to being non-judgmental. It’s human nature. We all make judgments every single day. They help us decide what is best for us. These judgments can be flexible and knowing that, I will continue to question and challenge my own judgments about others and about myself regularly.
- I will be assertive. I will recognize the difference between assertion and aggression.
- I will speak freely in my life and on my blog. No fear. My opinions and judgments are my own. Others can disagree and have every right to express their opinions. However, I have no less right to express mine just because others don’t agree with them.
- I will remember that my own opinions about myself, my life and anything else are more important to me than those of others.
- I will allow myself to express emotions. The good, the bad and the ugly. I will cry when I am sad. I will not be afraid of my feelings. They are mine and are only harmful to me when I stuff them. The fear of sinking into a deep dark pit of despair causes more anxiety than the emotions themselves.
- I will trust my own instincts, regardless of what others believe.
- I will face my fears and overcome them.
- I will not engage in arguments, debates or conversations with people who are unreasonable, manipulative or simply out to perpetuate their own false image.
- I will stand up for myself when I feel someone is attempting to take advantage of me.
- I will admit when I am wrong.
- I will not apologize for anything I didn’t do.
- I will not doubt myself when I am wrongfully accused of doing anything I did not do.
- I will not accept others’ opinions of me, my words or my actions when I recognize that they are false.
- I will say what I mean. I will not sugar-coat the truth when it is important that the truth be heard.
- I am not obligated to explain my decisions or beliefs to anyone. If an explanation is requested, I may choose to give one but I owe no one.
I think that’s enough for today. I’m sure I’ll think of more. If anyone wants to join me by adding their own personal statements in the comments section, feel free. I may have missed a few of my own and be inspired by yours.
Thanks for stopping by!
LOVED ‘em all! I”ll come up with a few of my own … later for sure. For now:
I will wash the kitchen floor later today, even if I don’t feel like it and I’d rather be here with you guys.
So nice
Dawn´s last blog ..Halloween Rising
The kitchen floor is definitely NOT going to be added to mine, but have fun with that!
NICE!
I might actually start a serious discussion with my dh today…..or I might choke myself with my own irrational fear of confrontation. Who knows!
LOL
Stephanie´s last blog ..Green Reading
LMAO – either way it’s YOUR judgment call to make.
This indeed was a good post…loved doing it.
I will appreciate myself for the things i truly have
I will ensure that i never slip a time to smile
I will say No when i want to say it without feeling awkward
I will do what i love to do even if nobody encourages me
I will rely on me n no one else to fix things i can and i should
swapna´s last blog ..The best Quest
I love your last 3 especially!
Perfect!!!! Live your life exactly like that and you will find peace and freedom.
Thanks, and I’m honored, if I’m not mistaken I believe this is your first comment!
I AM WOMAN HEAR ME ROAR!
I love this…definately going to give it some thought.
I just have one word: AWESOMENESS!! I love your posts!
Thank you!
as always, i need to print this off and hang it above my desk at work and somewhere at home.
she´s last blog ..Answers to Your Questions – Part III
I will strive to be as perfect as les from mamaneeds2rant.
Just kidding! Your list is great, just the way it is!
Les´s last blog ..Taxes Won’t Buy Passion
I will add this to the top of my list!
love, love, love!
i will climb back in bed on a rainy day and just be.
that’s what i did today so i thought i would add it to your list….
consuella´s last blog ..our story
This is the best one yet, I’m SO jealous!! Enjoy!
I will ask the questions I want to know and trust that the Universe will respond with the answers.
I will be respectful, honest, and loving even if those around me are having a tantrum.
I will continue making mistakes and correcting them as I go along.
I will not explain why I do what I do to anyone .
I will not defend my preferences in this life.
Dawn´s last blog ..Halloween Rising
I like yours a lot. I can’t commit to #2 but will certainly try. I LOVE your last two!