Comments on: Did I Really Say That

By: Emotional Eating And Self Protection | So Much More Than A Mom

Emotional Eating And Self Protection | So Much More Than A Mom — Sat, 26 Sep 2009 20:05:41 +0000

[...] hungry. This came up during the same intense conversation I mentioned a few days ago in my post Did I Really Say That. As a result of that conversation I am going to start trying to figure out what I’m feeling [...]

By: Dawn

Dawn — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 23:09:11 +0000

I began writing a comment late last night … in my state of barely functioning beyond tired mind. Now reading it, I’m realizing I may have a future post instead.

I totally dig the cool confidence Les has regarding men. For now, ditto to what Karen said I’m familiar with what she said to the ninth degree.

By: Cyndi

Cyndi — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 17:47:32 +0000

Thank you Karen, and welcome!

By: Karen Walker

Karen Walker — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 16:45:22 +0000

Hi Cyndi,
Wanted to stop over and thank you for visiting my blog and for your comment. It is amazing to me how connections are made through blogging and how similar in some respects, we all are. Men were scary to me as well for many years. I had a poor “picker.” My Dad was verbally abusive and so I grew up used to being treated badly. I had no idea what being loved felt or looked like. Now that I’m older, and presumably wiser, and living life consciously, not on automatic pilot, I recognize the warning signals much sooner and stay clear. This is a wonderful insight, Cyndi, and one that will keep revealing itself to you as you open more and more.
Karen
Karen

By: she

she — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 13:41:01 +0000

in college i had more guy friends than girl friends. now, after everything that’s happened, i don’t have any close guy friends. i am scared of men. i won’t even get into the elevator at work if it’s just me & one other guy.

By: Cyndi

Cyndi — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 17:48:26 +0000

This is a much healthier, and realistic, view of most men. Unfortunately, the few I’ve known well have not been anywhere close to normal, hence my fears.

By: Cyndi

Cyndi — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 17:47:18 +0000

Yes, the “upgrade” I did was an epic FAIL due to my lack of technical experience. I’m working with tech. support.

By: Dawn

Dawn — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 14:52:29 +0000

I love glimmers into the psyche … I am stopping back for sure. Planted a seed that will grow through the day. Did you know your website is experiencing a funk … not that it matters. It’s the content that matters.

By: Les

Les — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 14:22:52 +0000

To me, men aren’t scary just because I see them as such uncomplicated beings. You pretty much know exactly what they want, what motivates them, and how to make them forget about anything else. Yeah, it’s pretty much that one thing…with a few other things thrown in, of course. I know this sounds kind of mean and sexist–but just ask them. Most will admit it. Oh, and they also want to feel needed and appreciated. That’s it, folks.

By: Cyndi

Cyndi — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 11:15:44 +0000

Honestly, the post was just too long already, but I guess I did pull a to be continued!

Good point, my boys are not scary at all.

It’s difficult to explain but they don’t seem scary at all to me, not when I meet them, not even as I get to know them, but somewhere in the back of my head is always the idea that I’m being fooled or that they are not who I think they are. I think in some instances I’ve overlooked serious red flags because I just couldn’t believe “nice” men could be so not nice, while at the same time expecting them to not be so nice.

No matter what, having such a skewed view of an entire gender based basically on one man, has definitely affected who I’ve befriended and how I’ve perceived hubby and his actions at times.

I don’t think I’d get married again either. Thank God I didn’t end up divorced and out in the dating world last year. I can’t even imagine the creeps I would have fallen for!!