Comments on: Co-Dependency ~ Compliance Patterns http://somuchmorethanamom.com/2009/05/28/co-dependency-compliance-patterns/ How many of us lost OURSELVES when we took on the awesome title of MOM? And why did we do that? We are ALL…SO MUCH MORE THAN A MOM! Wed, 17 Mar 2010 18:45:40 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Co-Dependency ~ Control Patterns « So Much More Than A Mom http://somuchmorethanamom.com/2009/05/28/co-dependency-compliance-patterns/comment-page-1/#comment-2321 Co-Dependency ~ Control Patterns « So Much More Than A Mom Sun, 31 May 2009 02:31:44 +0000 http://somuchmorethanamom.wordpress.com/?p=1964#comment-2321 [...] side of the co-dependent person.  All of the previous patterns, Denial, Low Self-Esteem and Compliance, all seem harmless enough to everyone but the co-dependent person themselves.  The Control [...] [...] side of the co-dependent person.  All of the previous patterns, Denial, Low Self-Esteem and Compliance, all seem harmless enough to everyone but the co-dependent person themselves.  The Control [...]

]]> By: Cyndi http://somuchmorethanamom.com/2009/05/28/co-dependency-compliance-patterns/comment-page-1/#comment-2320 Cyndi Sat, 30 May 2009 18:00:48 +0000 http://somuchmorethanamom.wordpress.com/?p=1964#comment-2320 I agree, it is difficult to stop when you've been doing it your whole life. Half the battle is even recognizing that you're doing it so I'd say we're both doing pretty well! We're also lucky that we didn't end up with crazy people for husbands because we were prime targets for manipulators of all shapes and sizes. Thank you for your comment. I agree, it is difficult to stop when you’ve been doing it your whole life. Half the battle is even recognizing that you’re doing it so I’d say we’re both doing pretty well! We’re also lucky that we didn’t end up with crazy people for husbands because we were prime targets for manipulators of all shapes and sizes. Thank you for your comment.

]]> By: thewhatifgirl http://somuchmorethanamom.com/2009/05/28/co-dependency-compliance-patterns/comment-page-1/#comment-2319 thewhatifgirl Sat, 30 May 2009 16:22:11 +0000 http://somuchmorethanamom.wordpress.com/?p=1964#comment-2319 I'm still learning a lot of these things myself, so it is really good to not only read this list but also know that I am not the only one. My latest breakthrough has been not feeling what my husband is feeling just because he's feeling it. It feels so cold sometimes, like if I don't feel his feelings myself that means I don't care about him, but of course I still do so I just keep telling myself that we are two different people and will have different moods sometimes. Lucky for me, he agrees. :) The point of this is to say: thanks for this. I’m still learning a lot of these things myself, so it is really good to not only read this list but also know that I am not the only one.

My latest breakthrough has been not feeling what my husband is feeling just because he’s feeling it. It feels so cold sometimes, like if I don’t feel his feelings myself that means I don’t care about him, but of course I still do so I just keep telling myself that we are two different people and will have different moods sometimes. Lucky for me, he agrees. :)

The point of this is to say: thanks for this.

]]> By: Cyndi http://somuchmorethanamom.com/2009/05/28/co-dependency-compliance-patterns/comment-page-1/#comment-2318 Cyndi Sat, 30 May 2009 01:25:04 +0000 http://somuchmorethanamom.wordpress.com/?p=1964#comment-2318 I have no clue what book it's from. Sorry. I have no clue what book it’s from. Sorry.

]]> By: lynetteb http://somuchmorethanamom.com/2009/05/28/co-dependency-compliance-patterns/comment-page-1/#comment-2317 lynetteb Sat, 30 May 2009 00:46:32 +0000 http://somuchmorethanamom.wordpress.com/?p=1964#comment-2317 i love that quote! what book is it from? i will have to add it to my list... :) i love that quote! what book is it from? i will have to add it to my list… :)

]]> By: Cyndi http://somuchmorethanamom.com/2009/05/28/co-dependency-compliance-patterns/comment-page-1/#comment-2316 Cyndi Fri, 29 May 2009 20:02:55 +0000 http://somuchmorethanamom.wordpress.com/?p=1964#comment-2316 Thanks Tam. That's the point of this for me....warts and all. :) Thanks Tam. That’s the point of this for me….warts and all. :)

]]> By: Twitted by MuchMoreThanMom http://somuchmorethanamom.com/2009/05/28/co-dependency-compliance-patterns/comment-page-1/#comment-2315 Twitted by MuchMoreThanMom Fri, 29 May 2009 19:10:45 +0000 http://somuchmorethanamom.wordpress.com/?p=1964#comment-2315 [...] This post was Twitted by MuchMoreThanMom - Real-url.org [...] [...] This post was Twitted by MuchMoreThanMom – Real-url.org [...]

]]> By: Tammy http://somuchmorethanamom.com/2009/05/28/co-dependency-compliance-patterns/comment-page-1/#comment-2314 Tammy Fri, 29 May 2009 19:07:35 +0000 http://somuchmorethanamom.wordpress.com/?p=1964#comment-2314 I wish more people would talk about the way they feel. I think it would allow us, society, to connect on a more personal level. Good for you! I wish more people would talk about the way they feel. I think it would allow us, society, to connect on a more personal level.

Good for you!

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