Date Night
2008 November 15
“Many marriages would be better if the husband and wife clearly understood that they’re on the same side. “ — Zig Ziglar
I went on a date last night…with my hubby. We don’t go on dates very often. Don’t get me wrong, we are very social and do go out quite a bit. We just usually go out with other couples or one of us will go out with friends while the other stays home with the kids. Our marriage counselor stressed the importance of going on dates, just the two of us, a lot. In fact, he said it needed to occur weekly. We’ve had a difficult time keeping a regular weekly dating schedule but have done our best. The important thing is not what we choose to do, just that we get out of the house and spend some time doing something enjoyable alone. Sometimes, our weekly date is just lunch. This week, it was to be dinner and a movie. That isn’t exactly how it turned out….
We’ve been getting along really well lately and I was very excited about our date. I was looking forward to us having fun, alone, and also to putting on make-up, heels, and jewelry. It started off with dinner at Gordon Biersch (incidentally, I highly recommend the meatloaf with garlic fries…yummy). Things were going very well, dinner was excellent, the beer was good, we did a shot, and we were talking…a lot…and not about problems or kids or counseling….just hanging out and talking. We were having fun together…alone…just like the doctor ordered!
I have to mention at this point that like many men, my hubby is a card-carrying-very-open-about-it, perv. We are also very open with each other in discussing sex, fantasies, etc. Neither of us was particularly excited about seeing the movie we had chosen. We just picked one that sounded interesting for lack of any better ideas of what to do after dinner. So…when hubby mentioned that he remembered having seen a billboard somewhere advertising a spa that offered couples’ massages, and was open until midnight (?!)…I was open to the idea. It sounded naughty so I figured, “what the hell, let’s check it out”. In the sober light of day, I realize that nothing good can come from a spa open until midnight, but last night, we both suspended our disbelief and held out hope that we were possibly embarking on a sexy and fun adventure.
We drove about a half an hour further and further into rural communities when we spotted the billboard. Sure enough, it did advertise being open until midnight, but no mention of couples’ massages. We figured we’d just inquire about that when we got there. We finally found the place, in a small (hillbilly) town, in a badly-lit strip mall next to a “Cash Store”. Shady. There were no cars in the parking lot and as we got closer we saw a sign on the door instructing customers NOT to park in front, but to park in the back. VERY shady. When we got around to the back door of the “spa”, complete with a dumpster right next to it, we were fairly certain that to enter this establishment would most likely result in some sort of STD, or worse. But, we were on an adventure so hubby said he’d go in and check it out. The door was locked, he had to ring a doorbell. EXTREMELY shady. After checking him out through the security camera, the owner must have determined that he wasn’t a serial killer or with the vice squad because she opened the door. She said that they did not offer couples massages, there was only one “masseuse” on duty, and there was a two hour wait! Yikes. Needless to say, our naughty adventure did not result in a “happy ending” and we got the hell out of deliverance-ville.
Once safely back to civilization, we decided on a sports bar. It was fun. They had a decent oldies band that wasn’t so loud you couldn’t hear yourselves speak. They were showing a 1985 Bears vs. Packers game. More beer and shots and talking…and it was time to go home. We had a blast, and yes, a happy ending! 
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You crazy kids!
What are parents thinking?? I am not sure. I am one of those indulgent parents and I was asking myself the same ?? last nt as I stood in Best Buy contemplating the purchase of a Laptop for my daughter – who by the way is 9.
I have a laptop – she is always on my laptop. So i guess i was thinking – she wont be hogging my computer.
I still havent decided – my husband says yes – i say its expensive and then what – for her 12th birthday – a car??
The real problem is i am at a complete loss – as to what to get her for the holidays – this is the easy way out.
Shari
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by the way – love your articles.