Naughty Girl

2008 November 10

by Cyndi

“Well behaved Women rarely make History” — Eleanor Roosevelt

First, if you already consider yourself to be a “naughty girl”, this post isn’t for you. This post is for women like me; people-pleasing, co-dependent, avoid confrontation at all costs, follow the rules, always do the “right” thing, etc. If any of these descriptions fit you, read on.

Second, I have to pause here for a legal disclaimer from the U.S. Constitution, Amendment V…

No person shall be held to answer for a capital, or otherwise infamous crime, unless on a presentment or indictment of a grand jury, except in cases arising in the land or naval forces, or in the militia, when in actual service in time of war or public danger; nor shall any person be subject for the same offense to be twice put in jeopardy of life or limb; nor shall be compelled in any criminal case to be a witness against himself, nor be deprived of life, liberty, or property, without due process of law; nor shall private property be taken for public use, without just compensation.

In other words…I plead the 5th.

I will give a very vague description of some events that transpired one weekend in January. I am not required to provide any additional details, as explained in the legal disclaimer above.

Here’s the story…Hubby and I had very recently separated and things between us were at their very worst. I was extremely unhappy and very, very angry. A girlfriend called with an invitation to go on a short road trip with her to visit her sister for the weekend. I jumped at the chance, simply to escape the nightmare my life had become.

To say that my escape was successful would be a serious understatement. I was a very, very naughty girl. I behaved in ways not befitting a “good girl” or even a “law abiding citizen”. I did have a GREAT time though! It was just what I needed at that specific time. Thankfully, nothing I did caused any actual lasting damage or resulted in any negative consequences (except the feeling that I had been run over by a truck by the end of the weekend). I needed a vacation from my vacation.

My point is, I was sick and tired of always doing what others’ thought was the right thing, or what I thought others’ thought was the right thing. I was tired of always being a “good girl”.

I don’t recommend doing anything that would require you to plead the 5th or result in any negative consequences for yourself or others. That isn’t where I’m going with this. Where I am going is that if you feel trapped in a lifestyle or relationship or even in just your own rigid thoughts about what is “right” and “wrong”, it is VERY liberating to step out of your comfort zone and do something that you consider to be “naughty”.

If that means telling hubby you’re going out with the girls one night (and he normally doesn’t like for you to go anywhere without him), DO IT. If that means shaking things up in the bedroom with your significant other, DO IT. If it means taking a day to yourself for some pampering at a spa, DO IT. Whatever you can think of that will make you feel just a little bit “bad”, DO IT!

You only live once and life is too short to never be…..