Hello world!

2008 November 2

tags: being a mom, being a woman, charles bukowski, findiing yoursel, kids, Life, losing yourself, mommy, motherhood, Mothers, Psychology, raising kids, roles, woman, Women

by Cyndi

“You boys can keep your virgins. Give me hot old women in high heels with asses that forgot to get old. ”
— Charles Bukowski (Love Is a Dog from Hell: Poems, 1974-1977)

My very creative friend Jaime over at http://justjaime28.wordpress.com/ suggested that I start a blog several weeks ago. I’ve been thinking about it ever since. What would I talk about? Who would read? The list goes on. It finally came to me yesterday….write about being a mom!

Sound boring? Well, I don’t exactly want to write about my daily routine of getting my two school-age sons up, ready for school, get them to school, pick them up, get them to football practice, dinner, homework, etc….YAWN!

What I want to write about is all the other stuff. Before we were moms we were daughters, friends, lovers, students, employees, bosses, wives, etc. We had many roles that defined us. Some of those roles were chosen and enjoyable. Some of them were handed to us by nature and either enjoyable or not. We had interests and hobbies that did not revolve around the next soccer game or who the next PTA treasurer was going to be. How many of us gave all of that up when we became moms? How many of us lost OURSELVES when we took on the awesome title of MOM? And why did we do that?

Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE LOVE LOVE being a mom! When my oldest son was born, I actually had the thought, “so THIS is what I was meant to do…”. I adore my sons and would do anything for them. They are amazing people and helping to guide them through this crazy life has been, and will always be, a role I treasure and wouldn’t change for anything in the world. I love them both with all my heart. My family is my number one priority in life.

Having said that, aren’t I part of my family? Don’t I deserve at least some of my time and attention? Won’t taking care of myself ultimately make me a better mom anyway?

You may be wondering about the quote I chose to top this first blog entry. What does that have to do with being a mom?? NOTHING! It’s one of my favorite quotes for many reasons. One of them is that I am DEFINITLEY not a virgin so I appreciate this author’s appreciation for old broads (I’m 38) with nice asses (I’m not ashamed to say I’m still proud of mine ~ I worked hard for it, damnit!). Another reason is that it gives you an idea of my personality and therefore, what you can expect to hear from me. I am optimistic but have a dark side. I am sarcastic…A LOT. I am intellectual but also have the sense of humor of a 14 year old boy. I must warn you….I curse like a truck driver sometimes too. I’m creative and analytical. I am many things, as are we all. We are ALL…SO MUCH MORE THAN A MOM!

Thanks for stopping by, feel free to send me a comment or e-mail, and please bear with me while I learn about this whole blogging thing.